If your dreams don’t scare you, excite you, make you laugh and make you nervous all at the same time, then they are not big or bold enough.
So I was asked a few question yesterday from an old friend, which were the following: ‘what’s your goal? What’s the ambition? Where do you see yourself in 2-5 years’ time? Why are you doing everything you do?’
After I answered his questions, I read over what I wrote and laughed at myself. Yes AT myself, because I thought, who the hell do I think I am? That’s an impossible dream.
But then I reread it again, and again and I started to feel a bit panicked.. seeing my goals and ambitions in writing had actually scared me. And for a number of reasons.
Had I really thought through how I was going to achieve them?
Had I made myself a game plan?
Was I prepared to give 110% to make them happen? Was I prepared to do all that it takes?
Did I really know before that moment how much I wanted to succeed?
I can’t explain the feelings I felt in that moment, it was like a fire had been lit inside me, which made me realise how determined, excited and nervous I was to pursue them.
It genuinely kept me up last night thinking about it. Thoughts and ideas were racing through my brains, I could not switch off. I just couldn’t sleep, so I decided to sit down at my laptop at 2am, and going old school, putting a pen to a paper, I started to make lists of what I needed to do, designed timelines, drew spider maps, wrote out every little step I needed to take to achieve my ambitions and goals. Seeing it all on paper, made it real. And now I know what I NEED to do to achieve my goals. And it has left me with serious drive and determination to make it happen. No excuses. No BS. No nonsense. And I won’t let anyone tell me otherwise.
So now I’m asking you the same question…
What’s your goal?
What’s the ambition?
Where do you see yourself in 2-5 years’ time?
Why are you doing everything you do?
What’s the purpose?
Have you ever actually properly sat down and thought long and hard about where you envisage your life going?
Have you made yourself a game plan?
If you set out to do anything tonight or this week, why don’t you try and answer those questions. Find a quiet place where you can be alone with your thoughts, and actually honestly answer them. Write down everything that comes to mind without thinking twice. Even if they initially make you laugh. Just write them down. The moment you see them written before you on paper is the moment you will feel that spark.
Then formulate a plan. Draw a correlation between them. Set yourself a timeline to achieve them. Categorize them. Write it all out.. and be amazed at how deeply you will find yourself wanting to achieve them, by just seeing them in writing on paper in front of you.
And then as of tomorrow, start to work on them. No dream is ever too big, no dream is ever too much. There is no such thing as talent, just hard work. Make it an obsession. We are all equal as human beings. You can achieve anything if you set your mind to it. You can be anyone if you put in the time. In the end, you will reach the top. And I’ve heard, the view from the top is great.
And one piece of advice I have: Never ever look to others for approval, always keep your cards close to your chest. When you seek approval from others, you invite scrutiny from people who really can’t comment on your life because they haven’t lived it. Not everyone will agree with you all the time. Maybe no one will agree with your plan besides you, and that’s okay.