One day you are feeling on top of the world, and the next it’s a struggle to even get out of bed. You feel lethargic and demotivated. You just want to be away from the outside world. You want to wallow in self-pity and be alone with your mood. You’re feeling fed up with life. No willpower to go about your day. But you do because you feel you have to, getting the bare minimum done. But realistically all you want is to be back home, in your pajamas, on the couch curled up in a ball with a movie and a nice bottle of wine, a tub of ice-cream, pizza, the lot.
Sound familiar? Thought so. We all have some of those days. And that’s okay. I’m having one of those weeks if I’m being honest. Just haven’t felt overly motivated to do anything but wallow in my bad mood. Yeah, I’ve gone about my routine but I haven’t felt one bit enthusiastic about it. I sat down to complain about it to a friend this morning, and I probably came across as pathetic, because I, like everyone else who from time to time experience these moods, have absolutely no reason to be feeling like this. On the outside, everything seemed to be going great. Yet inside, I was just feeling very BLEUGH. Pair it with the terrible weather, I bet this week I am not alone.
Its only natural that even the most upbeat and enthusiastic of people have their mopey days too. Days where we are just fed up of putting on a happy face, trying to motivate others to do good. Days where we too just want the world to stop moving and everyone to leave us alone. And I often have people say to me: You’re always so happy. You’re always telling jokes. You’re always so enthusiastic. You’re like a breath of fresh air. And it’s true, while I try and be upbeat and positive most of the time because that’s the type of person I am, it’s important for me to point out, that I too sometimes feel like I just want to mope.
So I’ve decided to give you all my best tips on how to get through life when you’re just not feeling in the mood to be any way enthusiastic and motivated.
1. Know your limits and be realistic. Focus on what’s important for today, the rest can be done tomorrow. Use your time wisely, assess how much you can do but don’t let yourself become overwhelmed. This will just lead to stress, and with your mood, stress is what you are trying to avoid. No-one wants you to have a meltdown in work, college or the gym.
2. Write a to-do list. This will help you to see what needs to be done on paper in front of you, and might help declutter your mind a little. It will give you a starting point, and allow you to asses what tasks are important, and what tasks can be put off until you’re feeling more yourself.
3. Get Enough Sleep. And I especially fall victim to this. I don’t know when to slow down and stop, which doesn’t help my unmotivated mood, but it is so important to do so. Allow yourself to unwind and get a good full nights rest. You will wake up next morning feeling less drained, and hopefully refreshed and hopefully motivated again to pursue your goals.
4. Allow yourself some me time. When you feel you’ve had enough, allow yourself the freedom to do something else for a while. For me, it’s plonking my butt on the couch and binge watching a TV show, or throwing on a good movie that I know I’ll cry my eyes out to. Just let your brain unwind, and do what you want for a while. Try everything to make yourself feel good. It might be putting on your favourite song and dancing around the kitchen. It might be dunking chocolate biscuits into a cup of tea. It might be sitting in a comfy chair just reading a book. It might be unplugging from the outside world and your phone for a bit and just focusing on yourself.
5. Get some fresh air. While getting out and about might seem like the last thing you want to do. Sometimes some fresh air can just relax and help you unwind. Take yourself out of the moment, and just allow yourself to wander with no time constraints, nowhere to be. Or go to the gym and sweat out your frustrations, or just get lost in your workout. There’s something to be said for those post exercise endorphins.
And remember, it’s okay if it takes longer than you thought it would to shift this mood. Don’t be so hard on yourself. When you’ve had enough, you’ve had enough. If you don’t want to do something, don’t feel guilty about not doing it. As I’ve said above, it can be done tomorrow. The number one thing here is that you look after yourself, and nurture your mood. We are not robots. It’s okay to feel. And sometimes in order to get through the tough days, we have to allow ourselves to feel. Life isn’t always going to be exciting. Not everything is as it seems. So look after yourself, indulge in some comforts, and when your mood lifts, you’ll be feeling motivated again and ready to get back to reaching those goals.